Reblog: ‘Why We’re So Defensive and How to Stop’ — Leon’s Existential Cafe

We make significant mistakes when we’re protecting ourselves. Defensiveness, self-aggrandizement, bragging, deflecting, perfectionism; whatever you want to label it, we sometimes suck at maintaining our relationships. When stuck in fight or flight, the innate system that helps us avert or challenge danger, we cultivate responses that might benefit us in the short-term but, once crystalized, […]

Why We’re So Defensive and How to Stop — Leon’s Existential Cafe

Resource: How not to talk to former Christians

One of the things I have been frustrated by, as a recovering former Fundamentalist Christian, has been the way still-practising Christian friends & family speak to me about what I believe now. Fundamentalist Christians seem to believe they can still “speak into my life” with a “Word from God” the same way they would when I was a believer. It’s arrogant and disrespectful and very unpleasant.

It’s made me realise how insufferable I must have been when I was preaching or “evangelising” to non-Christians when I was a Christian 😕

The resource below from Chrissy Stroop is the best thing I have seen that describes this experience of how practising Fundamentalist Christian friends & family speak to me about my agnosticism. It articulates and explains things in a way that has been helpful to my mental health. I recommend it to all ex-Christians 👍

This graphic is reproduced here for non-commercial purposes. Chrissy’s website is cstroop.com.

Resource: Religious beliefs to unlearn

For many ex-Christians like myself, deprogramming from toxic religious indoctrination takes time. I recently came across this graphic from the team at Happy Whole Way. I think it speaks to a number of the things former fundamentalist believers have to unlearn.

This graphic is republished here with their permission. You can find out more about who they are & what they do on their website: www.happywholeway.com.