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From Existential Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom:
‘To decide to change would entail accepting existential guilt‘
Change can often be good & powerful, but the existential guilt is often too powerful for all of us at different times in our lives. Better to make no change and avoid having to deal with the truth.
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![I'm sick of hearing about the haves and the have nots
Have some personal accountability
The biggest problem with the way that we've been doing things is
The more we let you have, the less that I'll be keeping for me
Don't give a shit about the temperature in
Guatemala
Don't really see what all the fuss is about
I'm not going to worry about no future generations
I'm sure somebody's going to figure it out
Don't try to tell me how some power can corrupt a person
You haven't had enough to know what it's like
You're only angry because you wish you were in my position
Now nod your head because you know that I'm right
[Lyrics from the song Capital G by Nine Inch Nails]](https://oblivionwithbells1.files.wordpress.com/2022/09/nine-inch-nails-capital-g-copy-v2.png?w=1024)
‘We make significant mistakes when we’re protecting ourselves. Defensiveness, self-aggrandizement, bragging, deflecting, perfectionism; whatever you want to label it, we sometimes suck at maintaining our relationships. When stuck in fight or flight, the innate system that helps us avert or challenge danger, we cultivate responses that might benefit us in the short-term but, once crystalized, […]‘
Why We’re So Defensive and How to Stop — Leon’s Existential Cafe
Over the last few months or so I have been having conversations with friends & family about the findings of Seth Wynes & Kimberly Nicholas (2017) with regards to the top five actions each of us can personally do to combat climate change:
One of the most common comments I’ve had in response to the top five is people referring to the often-quoted line “100 companies are responsible for 70% of all carbon emissions”. Which is true, and we need to put pressure on those companies to urgently find ways to significantly reduce their carbon footprint. But I have found it surprising that this quote is used to provide cover for not making individual efforts to try to reduce personal carbon emissions as much as possible. Surely the majority of us can be doing both?
Some people can’t financially afford to fully take all the top five steps, which is fair enough. And some people argue over the wording of the top five and/or question the validity of the findings. And while I’m all for critical thinking, this just feels like sophisticated denial to me.
But besides the reactions above, often what people do in response to hearing the top five steps is react defensively and start justifying why they haven’t started or won’t start doing one or more of the things on the list. It’s not always articulated this way, but it often comes across as “well, yes, OTHER people should start doing those things but I can’t/won’t because…”
It seems to be part of the human condition: these rules don’t apply to me. Or to put it another way, not obeying these rules has no negative consequences for me right now so I’m not going to change my behaviour. I think part of this is an aversion to discomfort and/or change. It’s a perceived threat to “my way of life” which I think some people unconsciously interpret as “a threat to my survival”. Which I can understand, I want to survive too.
But it makes me wonder: this hardwired survival instinct i.e. selfishness, if one way it’s manifesting is a resistance to making personal changes to combat the climate crisis, is the human species ultimately hardwired for extinction?
Here’s my question:
At the scale of billions of people, is it realistic to try to get enough people to cooperate & overcome our selfish instincts in order to ultimately avoid the extinction of the human species?
Please let me know what you think in the comments 🙂👍 >>
![What great efforts we exert trying to forget our future fate by submerging the constant angst with innumerable distractions, or trying to convince ourselves the end isn't really what it seems by weaving marvelous [sic] alternative interpretations of what will happen in "the undiscovered country" on the other side of death.
― Terrence Deacon](https://oblivionwithbells1.files.wordpress.com/2022/03/2022-03-30-terrence-deacon.png?w=1024)
One of the things I have been frustrated by, as a recovering former Fundamentalist Christian, has been the way still-practising Christian friends & family speak to me about what I believe now. Fundamentalist Christians seem to believe they can still “speak into my life” with a “Word from God” the same way they would when I was a believer. It’s arrogant and disrespectful and very unpleasant.
It’s made me realise how insufferable I must have been when I was preaching or “evangelising” to non-Christians when I was a Christian 😕
The resource below from Chrissy Stroop is the best thing I have seen that describes this experience of how practising Fundamentalist Christian friends & family speak to me about my agnosticism. It articulates and explains things in a way that has been helpful to my mental health. I recommend it to all ex-Christians 👍
This graphic is reproduced here for non-commercial purposes. Chrissy’s website is cstroop.com.
For many ex-Christians like myself, deprogramming from toxic religious indoctrination takes time. I recently came across this graphic from the team at Happy Whole Way. I think it speaks to a number of the things former fundamentalist believers have to unlearn.
This graphic is republished here with their permission. You can find out more about who they are & what they do on their website: www.happywholeway.com.
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