Quote Post: Ernest Becker

'The irony of man's condition is that the deepest need is to be free of the anxiety of death and annihilation; but it is life itself which awakens it and so we must shrink from being fully alive.'

― Ernest Becker

Great Reads: The best books on Fear of Death recommended by Sheldon Solomon

Sophie Roell interviews Sheldon Solomon:

Sophie Roell: Before we get to the books, do you really think fear of death drives most of human behaviour?

Sheldon Solomon: Yes. I don’t think it’s the only motivational impulse for what people do, but it pervades a substantial portion of human activity — whether we’re aware of it or not. Mostly, we’re not. In our book, The Worm at the Core, we’re borrowing ideas from the books we will talk about momentarily. What we add to the enterprise are empirical studies that, by traditional scientific standards, lend credibility to these claims. None of the authors are saying this is the only reason we do things. What they are saying – and what we try to say in our book — is that if we don’t consider the role that existential concerns play in human affairs, we’ll be able to understand or explain very little.

Sophie Roell: So before you did these experiments, many people had claimed fear of death was an important motivator, but nobody had really proven it?

Read the rest of the interview on fivebooks.com >>

Quote Post: George Bernard Shaw

'Old men are dangerous: it doesn't matter to them what is going to happen to the world.'

― George Bernard Shaw

Making a change means acknowledging the difference making the change earlier would have made

From Existential Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom:

‘To decide to change would entail accepting existential guilt‘

Change can often be good & powerful, but the existential guilt is often too powerful for all of us at different times in our lives. Better to make no change and avoid having to deal with the truth.

Childhood methods of coping with fear of death that can carry through to adulthood: ‘I Am Special’, and ‘Supernatural Rescuer’

Screenshots from Existential Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom:

Quote Post: Dame Deborah James

Dame Deborah James talking about when she moved into end-of-life hospice care at home:
 
"I am not brave - I am not dignified going towards my death - I am simply a scared girl who is doing something she has no choice in but I know I am grateful for the life that I have had."
 
— Dame Deborah James 1982-2022


Source: https://news.sky.com/story/deborah-james-dies-podcaster-and-cancer-campaigner-passes-away-aged-40-12610225

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Quote Post: Joseph L. Henderson

Death is a mystery for which we must prepare ourselves in the same spirit of submission and humility as we once learned to prepare ourselves for life.

― Joseph L. Henderson